The male G-spot

Surprised, you say? Don’t be! We females have a G-spot, so why not the males as well?

The male g-spot is actually called the prostate gland. It’s a feel-good little spot that is usually accessed through a man’s anus. With that first sentence we discover why this little magical button is not explored nearly enough as it should be. Yes, fellas, it’s in your ass.

The prostate has a few functions, but the one we’re mainly interested in lies in the fact that the prostate contains smooth, velvety muscles that help the male body come. That means the little sucker tightens and releases while you’re ejaculating, making it a bit of flesh that you already use when you’re aroused. When stroked the prostate clenches (just like the inner walls of a vagina) and responds.

There is always talk of finding the prostate outside of the body, without having to penetrate your lover but I have found through personal experience that it is just not going to work that way, so instead I am going to suggest a few ways to get your man to relax enough to allow him to give you access to what some men feel is an awkward part of their body.

Now, before you’re even considering this action there is (as usual) the consideration of your partner. Ladies, this is a doubtlessly a delicate topic for your man and I know a few of them will freak if you even mention it. I don’t want to blame the reluctance of an entire sex on homophobia but that’s really the only reason I can think of that a man would be unwilling to try something like this IF he is comfortable with you. That’s a big if, girls. Keep in mind that the anus is not typically the first place you’d go to on the male body when you are thinking stimulation. If your man is reluctant it may simply be regular old embarrassment. If he is worried he is not clean enough there, suggest a shower (maybe even a shower together!) before you venture down this path.

There is also the possibility that your man may be afraid of the pain. Any of us who have done it before know that it hurts like a son of a bitch until you’re used to it. Pardon my French, but if you had asked me twenty minutes after that first unpleasant penetration I would have told you that my eyebrows had burned off and I would never be able to sit again. Most of us have to get used to it before it’s a pleasing feeling and even after that if we go too long without going we’re right back in the pain-zone. If you feel like this is what is worrying your man put his fears to rest! The male anus is pretty much MADE for this kind of treatment. It’s got many more nerve-endings than ours and it has a more elastic-type quality. If done properly with the right kind of lubrication and with enough speed for him to adjust, he’ll feel nothing but ecstasy.

One way to possibly relax your partner is what we call a “rim job” it’s basically just licking the rectum in order to give pleasure. As I mentioned before men have a great deal of nerve endings there. If you are comfortable enough and you use your tongue without being too aggressive eventually your man will relax enough for you to insert a finger inside of him. Be careful to trim your nails before you do this and don’t just plunge it in there or he will tighten up and quite possibly kick you in the face. Keep a steady pressure and be patient, remember that there hardly any pleasure in the first few strokes as his body adjusts to you and you will have to give him time.

Lube is an important factor. I would suggest something silicone based. Water based lubes work as well, but they dry out quickly so they will have to be reapplies. The ass does not lubricate itself like the vagina does, but it does have a way of lessening friction that I will not go into at this time.

Repeatedly check to make sure your partner is comfortable at this point. It is easier to access his body if he is on all fours with his head down, but it may be easier for him to take if he is on his back with his knees on his chest, spread wide, so this will have to be a judgment call. If you can, use your free hand to work his testicles as this will lessen a bit of the pressure and give him something else to focus on. Or, of course, you can also give him oral. You may even want to have him stroke himself.

At this point the decision of whether or not to go further rests on his level of comfort. If he is not in a state of pleasure after you are able to move your finger a little ways in and out (do not withdraw it completely) perhaps he is simply not comfortable enough at this particular time. If he asks you to stop you should of course do that and do not fret too much that you will only get one chance. You’d be surprised what men try to do to please their lovers and if he felt the slightest bit of pleasure he will probably try again later.

Remember that there is always the chance of embarrassing slips when you go this route. I don’t think I need to go in-depth about what can happen, but keep in mind that your man has opened up to you and if you betray his trust with negative reactions to human functions you may never have it again.

The most important thing to keep in mind while trying this particular avenue is that the ultimate goal is pleasure. No one should feel forced or should worry that what they’re doing will come back to haunt them. If you find your partner is comfortable with this action but the two of you have trouble finding his prostate, never fear; there’s always tomorrow!

Happy hunting, and may your experiments bear fruit of understanding and intense satisfaction.